An estimated 30% of men suffer from premature ejaculation (PE) at some point in their life, which can cause significant distress.
Ejaculation can be considered premature when it occurs 30 seconds to 4 minutes into sex, depending on different cultures, countries and experts. However, it seems that most tend to agree that any sexual intercourse lasting less than 2 minutes can be considered premature ejaculation if it becomes a frequent problem.
Behavioural techniques can help you delay orgasm. These include the start-and-stop method and the squeeze technique.
A combination of these techniques along with sexual counselling and medication (either using an anaesthetic cream or an oral tablet) is recommended.
Premature ejaculation is ejaculation that happens too soon for a man and his partner to enjoy sex. There are two types of premature ejaculation: lifelong (or primary) and acquired (or secondary).
Lifelong PE starts early on, usually when you are a teenager experiencing first sexual contact. It is harder to treat and often has deeper psychological causes. Bad habits may also contribute (such as masturbating to ejaculate as fast as possible in order to avoid getting caught).
Acquired PE happens later in life and is usually triggered by either psychological (stress or relationship issues) or physical causes (diabetes or high blood pressure).
There are a wide range of "home-made" remedies for premature ejaculations like frequent sex, masturbating a couple of hours before sex, or having sex with the woman on top.
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Behavioural strategies: "start-stop" and "squeeze techniques" often prove effective, but do not provide a long-term solution.
It can take a few months for you to overcome PE with these techniques. However, they are not cures and many men have to start using them again a few months after returning to normality as their sexual performance deteriorates over time.
On average, 50% to 95% of men using sexual techniques manage to conquer PE eventually. There is a risk of relapse if there are significant changes in your sexual life (e.g. new partner, stressful event), especially if you feel anxious. In general, the sooner in life you learn to master these techniques the better.
Men who are over-sensitive, rather than being excessively anxious, might not benefit from these behavioural methods because they suffer from a different cause of premature ejaculation. This is true for men who have the problem for reasons other than anxiety or lack of self-control.
For these patients, medications that reduce your sensitivity are a better solution and eventually improve control over ejaculation. Whilst they can be taken as long-term solutions for premature ejaculation, they don't fix the underlying causes of PE.
No one knows exactly why some men manage to overcome their PE. It may be that medication helps them to understand better how to control their body and their ejaculations.
This is by far the most simple technique and can be done alone or with a partner.
The technique involves stimulating the penis and stopping just before you feel you are about to ejaculate. Stop the stimulation for 30-60 seconds and start again once you feel that you have regained control. Repeat this process 4-5 times, stopping and “resting” every time you feel that you are about to have an orgasm. Finally, let the ejaculation occur, so that you can identify the “point of no-return”.
Many couples and partners complain, however, about the inconvenience of this “game” and find it frustrating. Try to incorporate it smoothly into sex and take advantage of the pauses to focus on sources of pleasure other than the penis.
The "squeeze" technique works by squeezing the penis in the area between the shaft and the glans (for about 30 seconds), just before you are about to ejaculate. This stops the ejaculation, but may affect your erection, at least until you are stimulated again. You should then repeat this process 4-5 times until you decide not to delay orgasm anymore.
To be effective, this method has to be used for several months and requires great perseverance from the man and his partner.
The idea behind the "squeeze" technique is that, after a while, you are able to recognize the “point of no return” and may be able to delay future ejaculations. This technique may be frustrating though as it can disrupt sexual activity.
The "start-stop" and "squeeze" technique prove more effective when combined with these techniques:
Longer foreplay can help increase satisfaction of your partner as well as delay your ejaculation. Longer foreplay can improve your relationship by reducing dissatisfaction, frustration and performance-related anxiety.
Be aware that the more pressure men feel during sex, the more likely they are to suffer from PE.
Communication will help you overcome many issues and any discrepancies between your desires and those of your partner.
Thick condoms: try these if you think your penis is too sensitive. They can help decrease its sensitivity.
Focus on other sexual pleasures: this can decrease anxiety and help you gain better control over your ejaculation.
Talk to your doctor: PE is a very treatable condition.
Hello, my name is Dr. Wetzler of DrEd.com. Today, I want to talk about how to stop premature ejaculation and the different solutions available to men who come too early.
What is premature ejaculation? It is a common condition in which you or your partner feels that you're reaching orgasm too quickly. We usually mean that it's too fast for you to enjoy sex in general. Somewhere below two minutes is often recognized as premature ejaculation.
While there's no cure to premature ejaculation, there are treatments and exercises you can use to stop premature ejaculation. Keep in mind that for most men what really works is, in fact, a combination of all these techniques along with psychological counselling, if it is necessary. Quite often, it is about solving a mix of anxiety, stress, but also bad habits of ejaculating too early.
As to treatments, there are two very effective solutions. One is the EMLA Cream that numbs the sensation of your penis so you don't get too much stimulation and therefore you can last much longer. The other is known as Priligy or Dapoxetine, which is a very effective oral tablet that you take before sex. On average Priligy has been shown to help men last, at least, three times longer than usual. Complete a simple online questionnaire to get a prescription and order either EMLA Cream or Priligy and get it delivered to your home. All our medications are 100% genuine and delivered in a discreet package by a registered UK pharmacy.